End-of-Life Talks
Although death is an inevitable part of life and something we will all experience at some time, it’s a subject that many often shy away from talking about. But taking a healthy approach to conversations about dying can help ensure that final wishes are followed and important matters are resolved and can make an emotional and stressful time a little easier.
These conversations may take place at any time. But often, they arise when somebody is very poorly or getting older. While it may be a little uncomfortable to begin with, having these conversations can bring clarity and a sense of peace when the time comes to say the final goodbye.
Let’s look at how to begin an open conversation about dying and the things you might want to consider discussing.
When and where should you have conversations about death?
As a sensitive subject, choosing the right time and place to have these conversations with loved ones is essential. Starting these conversations before a crisis or health diagnosis takes place allows them to be more open and rational.
In addition to planning ahead, you may also want to consider the location for these conversations. Choose somewhere familiar and relaxed, such as your home or the home of a loved one, so that everyone feels they are in a safe environment and can speak freely.
How do you start the conversation around dying?
Some people might find speaking about dying challenging or initially uncomfortable, so be sure to pick the right time. You might wish to start it by sharing your own thoughts and wishes should you become ill or die. This can feel more natural and can lead to open-ended questions for your loved ones so they can share their perspectives.
What should you talk about?
This will mainly be unique to you, your loved ones and your circumstances, but common topics include:
- How they wish to be cared for if they become ill or frail - would they like to remain at home, or would they prefer to go to a care home or hospice?
- If they were seriously ill or injured and unable to make decisions, what level of medical care would they like to receive?
- What are their preferences for their funeral - do they want a burial or cremation or is there a specific place they want to be laid to rest?
- Practical matters such as finances, wills and power of attorney.
How to deal with emotional responses when talking about dying
Talking to loved ones about dying will undoubtedly stir up strong emotions from all parties. It’s important to stay calm, listen to everyone’s thoughts and validate their concerns or feelings. It’s never easy to talk about death, but it can provide reassurance that final wishes are known and followed.
Take the first steps towards planning a meaningful goodbye
At Fiesta Farewell, we believe that every life should be celebrated. Beginning conversations about dying with loved ones is the first step in planning a meaningful goodbye. Explore our directory of funeral providers to help you plan a bespoke farewell that celebrates a person’s legacy.
